Hello, and welcome to The Daily Pulse!
Before I share today's thoughts, here is a little peek into the mood of the day as shared by someone on my Twitter timeline:
So many gods, so many creeds, so many paths that wind and wind, while just the art of being kind is all the sad world needs.
- Ella Wheeler Wilcox
Beautiful thought, isn't it? But how easy is it really to practice that? News flash, it isn't especially in a world heavily influenced by the not so kind art of social media debating. There was a time when people with opposing views could not only look each other in the eyes, but also nurture friendships, share meals and be generally human to each other. Discord and consistent verbal violence and provocation is a thing which is fairly more common and in exaggeration due to the blurring lines between a momentary glance and one side of a whole human being and one's understanding or experience of them.
Today's pulse captures communication and its intention as we see it, feel it, experience it, and perform it. I will share an example here: back when I was in college, I had sensed political differences emerge strongly within some of the people whom I knew. We did not see eye to eye on those points which for me, were more about looking at human rights and for them, well, their own conception of human rights. However, neither did I write them off nor I believe they did. We both became for each other, representations of the principles opposing our own. Fast forward to more than a decade, later when I found myself at a gathering of people among which I did not anyone barring one person, and I was met with someone younger than me who wanted to actively engage anyone in sight, in conversation over a recent government policy. Most people seemed to avoid engaging them and when they tried to get me to join in, my asking them a question that challenged their very belief that bolstered their opinions, made them automatically perceive me as the "other side". I ended up not engaging by letting them know that I was doing so for they were interested in 'one-upmanship' or how their being right meant I had to be wrong, instead of a proper conversation which is about all world views.
More often than not, the most painful conversations today are those where one or both involved are only interested in proving themselves right in absolute terms, as if another reality, another world view and another experience weren't possible at all and if they were, then it was a matter of shame for them. Why do we do that? Do you do that, or are you able to discern between real conversation or debate versus just unnecessary displays of ego through verbal attacks or mockery?
So here's my final word on today's pulse: more often than not, if there are people in discord unwilling to listen (umm, if?) to each other, it usually stems from their need to defend their personal positions or narratives which in some twisted way they have been (we all have been perhaps?) conditioned, programmed, manipulated to believe has to come at the cost of another's version of reality. The fact is that sometimes it will. The question however, remains are you able to discern when, while upholding fundamental rights of all that is?